The professor said that a man with a college degree is enough to be a female graduate husband.

The problem of marriage and love among highly educated people is becoming more and more prominent (data picture)

　　"Reading and studying Bo does not prevent you from marrying a good man." "A man with a college degree is enough to be a boss and a husband!" Yesterday afternoon, in the venue of Chongqing University Graduate School, Zhou Xiaoyan, a professor of psychology at Chongqing Normal University and an expert on love and marriage, made a surprising speech. This is a lecture on "Emotional Puzzlement in Colleges and Universities" spontaneously held by graduate students. More than 100 boys and girls have a big collision of views on marriage and love.

　　According to some surveys, although graduate students have unique opinions on emotions, they are not good at expressing them. It is easy for them to become "three highs" (high income, high education and high age) when they step into society and encounter problems in marriage and love.

　　I’m afraid that my education is too high and nobody wants it.

　　Expert: Girls should put aside the educational gap.

　　"I’m graduating soon, and I want to take a doctor’s degree. But I’m worried that marriage will become a problem after reading a PhD. Should I marry myself before considering studying for a PhD? " At the meeting, a female graduate student raised her own confusion. She said that she and several friends are worried about this problem, fearing that the status of a female doctor will make men afraid, and that the difference in academic qualifications will become an obstacle to communication between the two sides.

　　"The female doctor is not an extinct teacher." Zhou Xiaoyan said that although modern women’s academic qualifications are getting higher and higher, they have not become old-fashioned. On the contrary, their connotations and life interests may be better than others. First of all, girls should put aside the educational background gap and look for the other half they really like in their hearts, while boys should remain confident and pursue bravely. "According to my analysis, it is enough for a man with a college degree to be a boss and a husband! Education is not a reason to hinder men’s Excellence. "

　　Can marriage be regarded as employment?

　　Expert: Marriage is not a good strategy for curve employment.

　　"Now many girls are snobbish and want to find rich husbands, and we poor students of the same age have no chance." At the scene, a boy said angrily. Several girls immediately stood up and responded: "Who doesn’t like a man with money and quality?"

　　"When you meet a rich and tasteful man, I support you and get married quickly!" Zhou Xiaoyan said. However, she went on to tell a case: a female graduate student couldn’t find a job when she graduated, and quickly married a rich man and lived in a mansion in Jiangbei. After marriage, her husband restricted her freedom, forbade her to contact with the opposite sex and forbade her to study and work. Two months later, she got a diploma and a divorce certificate. "Find a rich man, work is a pastime, no rich man, work is fundamental. In any case, women can’t lose the happiness brought by work. Marriage is not a good strategy for curve employment. "

　　For boys, Zhou Xiaoyan also has advice: "Life is not snobbish, but you should talk about strength." She said that boys love a person with strength to prove it. "Controlling talent with virtue is noble, wealth with virtue is noble, and love with virtue is advanced."

　　How do men and women get along?

　　Expert: Don’t be a "nanny" and "undercover"

　　Zhou Xiaoyan said that the psychological core of men is "achievement and ability", which needs to be appreciated, appreciated and affirmed. The core of female psychology is "emotion and relationship", which needs to be listened to, cared for and respected. Therefore, when men and women get along, they should be "painful" like their fathers and "good" like their sons; Women should "protect" men like mothers and "be charming" like daughters.

　　"I am meticulous to him. I have to leave the best for him when I eat. Why is there still a problem in my relationship?" A female graduate student asked. Zhou Xiaoyan said, don’t let love become a burden to men. "Motherhood flooding care too much, you become a nanny. How many men will fall in love with the nanny? "

　　Another girl said that after reading many stories about men’s affairs, she didn’t know how to control men in the future. "You are going to enjoy love and marriage, why do you go undercover?" Zhou Xiaoyan said, you should be independent in marriage and have your own wonderful life. Zhou Xiaoyan advised the students, "Don’t think about so many complicated problems. The most important thing now is to practice the basic skills of love, and life will be more exciting in the future."

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　　Reporter Tan Lujie

　　Live tidbits "

　　There were only 16 boys at the scene.

　　It’s hard to say "I love you". It’s a failure to blow up a long-distance relationship.

　　Among the nearly 100 students, the majority are girls and only 16 are boys. During the lecture, Professor Zhou has to ask two questions from time to time. Some of them are sharp, others are interesting, and the girls are scrambling to answer them, but the boys seldom speak. When asked, "What gift will you give your girlfriend on Valentine’s Day? What stage are you in love now?", a boy who was drawn refused to answer, "This is a private question and it is inconvenient to answer."

　　Some girls want to ask: Are boys too reserved now? Or are you so skilled in love that you don’t have to learn to improve?

　　It’s hard to say "I love you"

　　When boys confess, they often say "I love you", and when girls respond, they always say "You are so stupid". Research shows that the tone of courtship is very important! At the scene, three pairs of boys and girls were drawn, and these two sentences were linked in six tones: surprise, shyness, ridicule, sadness, fanaticism and solemnity.

　　"I … I …" A boy in a striped shirt looked at his partner’s girl and couldn’t say it. Turn around and say to the reporter: "A classmate in the class, say it funny!"

　　Self-destructive long-distance love is a failure.

　　Some girls ask: Is long-distance love reliable? Some boys rushed to answer: I like long-distance relationships, which can keep my distance and keep love fresh. At this time, another boy suddenly stood up and retorted loudly: "You try a long-distance relationship! I have been in love for 4 years, I have seen 6 times and held hands twice. I am a living negative textbook! " There was a burst of laughter at the scene, and he added, "I haven’t been in love yet, and now I’m going to let myself fall in love."

Editor: wangxin